Share 'Help! I have Grape Leaf Skeletonizers and black flying beatles on my tomatoes!'

I read here that neem oil works for the skeletonizers but I don't know where to find it in S. Tempe. I have 1/4 inch flying black beatles that swarm my tomatoes when they start turning ripe and am wondering if this is why the tomatoes get mushy? I also read that the skeletonizers are poisonous and will leave you with painful welts if they come in contact with your skin....can I feed them to my ch…